Not a TOTAL Loser

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While slightly ashamed to admit this, I am a 23 (nearing 24) year old woman who lives at home with her mother. These days, this practice is less shameful, especially in this economy (see video above) but this is definitely not what I planned for myself to do after college graduation. I was delirious…

Graduated from college and had NO job and no idea what I was going to do. As much as it shamed me, I moved in with my family and had only planned on being there for a short period. Love how I’m still here, right? Lol.

PROS of Living with the ‘Rents:

1) Relatively cheaper- though in my own experience it nets about the same cost as I have to help keep up with these damn bills that keep appearing out of nowhere. Once this rough period ends, however, I’ll be able to start saving up so that I don’t have to go to law school totally empty handed. Yay!
2) Serves as a good transition period for whatever you’re going to do. Whether its temporary while you wait on school to begin or slightly more long term- you’re not totally on your own. I need this as I’m ready to take on some responsibilities, just not comfortable doing it all at once. I need to ease into bills…though I think I’ve conquered them and I’m ready for them to go away now.
3) Seeing your family etc etc. Lol.

CONS (Don’t act Surprised- of course there are cons):

1) Privacy- not a problem for me so much as I’m single. If I wanted to bring a guy home, I could as I’m paying a lot of the bills around here (you know that saying “its my house, I pay the bills, you go by my rules” null and void here baby!) but I would never. Who wants to do stuff when your family is in the house. EW.
2) Shame- I definitely don’t want to run around telling people that I live at home with my mother. Its not as bad now as most people are going through it as well…but there is some level of shame for me.
3) Parents/Family annoying and strict as all hell. This isn’t my case (yes they’re annoying) but I know people whose parents still hold them to those under 18 ideals and make them do chores and give them curfews etc. Ridiculous…

My Personal Experience:

Not too bad… my only qualm is that my savings is very low as all these bills keep appearing- bills that are behind etc- and they need to be paid in order to maintain. It’s a bit stressful now as my mother is not able to work and has not yet begun receiving disability checks (she’s not bad off – no need to worry…her docs just think that she shouldn’t work) and neither of my brothers have been able to score a job. So it’s really just me and a few veteran’s checks my mom receives paying the bills. Stressful…but as soon as her disability checks roll in… I hope that the situation will change!